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Sunday, June 14, 2026

To Remain Human

 

(This is why LNPC is doing a digital fast.)


To Remain Human

by Brian Lewis


The nervous system

was never designed

to carry the grief

of an entire planet


Yet here we are


A child starving

crosses our screen

between weather reports

and advertisements


Forests burn beside stock prices

Wars arrive

in the same hand

that holds photographs

of our grandchildren


And somewhere inside us

something ancient

keeps trying

to respond


This is the exhaustion

few know how to name

Not simply stress

Not simply fear

But the unbearable collision

between the human heart

and the scale

of modern awareness


We were meant

to know the sorrow

of the village


Now we are asked

to metabolize

the suffering

of civilizations


And many are drowning


Some in rage

Some in distraction

Some in endless performance

Some in irony so thick

it becomes a shield

against feeling anything real


Others quietly disappear

inside themselves

their spirits dimming

beneath the constant demand

to remain informed

productive

available

certain


The world keeps shouting

Choose a side

Move faster

Consume more

Outrage harder

Win


But the soul

does not speak

in that language


The soul speaks

through silence

through grief

through awe

through the sudden trembling

that arrives

when one human being

finally feels

the reality

of another


This is why

so many people

stand at the edge

of breakdown


Not because they are weak


But because they are porous


Because somewhere beneath

the armor

their humanity

is still functioning


And perhaps

that is what must now

be protected


Not merely ecosystems


Not merely institutions


But the fragile interior capacities

that allow human beings

to remain human

inside an age

that profits from fragmentation


To remain tender

without collapsing


To remain informed

without becoming consumed


To remain compassionate

without surrendering discernment


To stand before suffering

without turning away 

and yet also

without allowing suffering

to transform the heart

into stone


This is harder

than revolution


Harder than ideology


Harder than certainty


Because it asks something

few civilizations

have ever learned to cultivate

strength

without cruelty


Perhaps this is why

small acts matter so much now


A hand on a shoulder


A teacher

who notices the silent child


A man planting trees

whose shade

he will never live to sit beneath


A woman refusing

to let cynicism

be mistaken for wisdom


These are not small things


They are the architecture

of psychological survival


The architecture

of repair


And maybe the future

will not ultimately be decided

by those

who accumulated the most power 

but by those

who learned

how to carry immense complexity

without surrendering

their capacity

for love


Because civilizations do not die

only from invasion

or collapse


They also die

when people can no longer feel

one another


When exhaustion

becomes identity


When distraction

becomes culture


When tenderness

becomes embarrassment


When the human nervous system

finally says

enough


But I do not believe

that ending

is inevitable


I think there are still people

quietly rebuilding

the interior world


Still people

teaching children wonder


Still people

protecting beauty


Still people

who understand

that compassion

is not sentiment


It is infrastructure


And perhaps

the task before us now

is not merely

to save the world 

but to become

the kind of people

capable

of inhabiting it together.

 

Monday, January 21, 2019

Differently than this


(You can read more about the story here and here).


Over the weekend, an explosive controversy unfolded rapidly on social media responding to an incident Friday at the Lincoln Memorial in Washington DC. 
Groups of people gathered in the same place with different agendas, all operating on stereotypes, assumptions and prejudices.  And in the hours that followed, in the social media firestorm that was unleashed WE operated on stereotypes, assumptions and prejudices.  Here are some of the snap judgments that may have been in play: 
MAGA wearing, white males = perpetrators. 
Native American elder = wise. 
Black people = victims.  
It's Simple. 
Except the kids were shouting school spirit chants, trying to figure out their way through an overwhelming situation.  The Elder inserted himself in, trying to change the dynamic he thought was occurring, adding to the confusion and fear.  And the Black people were the ones yelling racial slurs and demeaning things at other groups - for two hours.  

Cue our heads exploding. 

Because when we first saw the images and clips, we thought we knew who we were supposed to support and stand with, and who we were allowed to judge, condemn and dismiss.  
And now it's not so simple.  
People didn't stay neatly  in their categories for us.

(And let's be honest - it felt like a delicious, righteous rage roiling inside to read the boy's smile as smug, arrogant, Trumpian assholery, didn't it?  We don't want to see a scared kid trying to communicate calm. I mean, look at his hat!).  We humans love having our stereotypes reinforced, and can barely stand - literally are thrown off balance - when they don't fit.

By Saturday we'd already crucified those kids.  Because apparently we are allowed to do the things we supposedly abhor – that is, judge, condemn, criticize, belittle, demean, and destroy - as long as we aim it at the right people. (But they’re not even people, right? Animals, monsters, idiots, let's call them).  
On Facebook I saw people I respect posting the children's personal information, school, church, parents' workplace, neighborhood, etc. Let's get them. Ruin their college changes. Make them PAY.  Maybe you or I would never stoop to issuing death threats, but someone did. You should DIE for showing disrespect. You are not worthy to live.  But we'll take the high ground.  We'll just say you are not worthy to be called a human being

We are the mob. 
We might as well have been in the scene shouting obscenities in their faces.  
Only that doesn’t have nearly the damaging impact of what we can inflict on them from behind our safe and self-righteous screens, does it? The power to punish, right at our fingertips. 

BUT

We all belong to God.  
Everyone in this scenario is a precious child of God. 
Everyone in this scene is acting out of desire to belong. 
Everyone in this scene is reacting to their own interpretations of what is happening in front of them.
Each person is working to figure out who they are and assert where they fit.  
Each person is trying to live out their humanity in a really, really messed up, broken system. 
We are all victims of this system. 
We are all perpetrators of this system. 
We are all culpable for what we’ve built and continue to reinforce.  

AND

We all belong to each other. 
This is true and doesn't change. 
We are stuck with each other – all these different Americans! 
Even the ones we can't understand. 
Even the ones we can't relate to.
Even the ones we don't even like.  
Nevertheless, they are ours and we are theirs. We are responsible for each other. 
Those kids are our kids. That is our Native American Elder, and the small group shouting obscenities at everyone else, they’re ours too.  

Some of us are adults – meant to set an example, to teach, to guide. The elder, the Hebrew Israelites, you and I – we are the adults here.  We are responsible for the nation we are building for our kids.  
What kind of a country do we want to hand on?  
What kind of faith do we want to practice?  
What kind of humanity do we want to embody?

Let’s do this differently. 
I believe we can live differently than this.

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

checking out to be all in


I have been easing off of social media the past few months, like a detox.  Sometimes I dip back in and it feels like a relapse - I don't like what it does to me. I feel sluggish and anxious and fired up about things that I don't need to take on.  It no longer feeds me; right now it mostly drains me.  I will be going off of it completely for the next three months as I go on sabbatical.  
I have been a zealous Facebook user since 2009. Every year I print a book of the photos and things I shared about my kids (and more and more, things I didn't share - just posted to myself so that they would make it into the book).  So I find myself grieving that record-keeping and wondering what will take its place.
But I also know I need to do this. 
I wrote the following post on Facebook after returning from a spring break trip with my family to Mexico, and just before Holy Week:

March 25, 2018


So... 10 days away from Facebook/social media and here are some things I noticed:
1- I didn't miss it.  
I didn't miss the drama (DRAMA!!). The arguing and factions. The urgency and insistency. The labels and categories. The for or against, good or bad, right or wrong. The way it takes otherwise decent people and gives their worst instincts a megaphone. It's a whole conversation I don't have to be in. For real. Choice. Freedom. (#sabbathwisdom)
2 - I did miss it, in a bad way. 
I was shocked how little interest my phone held for me when I wasn't responding to the little red circle on the corner of the Facebook icon. And how often in my day I do - like multiple times an hour. Like every time I pick up my phone. With the app deleted, and staying away from social media completely, I was FAR more present with my kids, husband, self, surroundings, thoughts, emotions, sensations. It turns out Facebook use is compulsive for me. The immediate feedback. Instant gratification. It's an addiction. It affects my relationships. I keep one foot in not-real world and only one in the real. I am no longer comfortable with my use of it.
3- I did miss it, in a good way.
Facebook keeps me connected to people I love who live far away. We share stories and photos. Glimpsing people's lives and thoughts can make me inspired, reminded, grateful. I see stories that remind me where God is and encourage me to keep looking. I share things I know are inspiring to others. I missed this. And if I consider going off completely, I would miss this.
4- I missed less.
I read far more full articles in the newspapers I subscribe to. Instead of scrolling past titles and thumb-responding, or feeling bombarded with people's opinions or agendas and getting swept up, I read the morning paper, like the old days (except on the screen). I felt both better informed and healthier.
5- I missed more. 
I didn’t ride the waves of frenzy surrounding new stories or whatever else people got up in arms about. Whatever else people said about my friend that tore her apart or made her a symbol for their cause, missed it. Whatever finger-pointing and hand-wringing and mouth frothing went on about any and everything, missed it. Whatever funny dog videos or hysterical gifs or stupid, brain-draining articles about this health fad or that shocking behavior I would have spent precious time watching or reading, missed it. 
I feel like part of me has been an open wound I keep picking and irritating with social media. I didn't know it was affecting me like it was. Left alone for 10 days, it's beginning to heal. 
At this point, I feel very hesitant about returning, or in what form I should.
I need to sort out what I am wanting and needing, so I'm taking the next week off of social media too. 
Peace.

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